Being a digital nomad for 4 months and the lessons I learned


I have recently dipped my toe into the pool of digital nomadism by going on a four month trip in South East Asia. I consider myself a pretty well-versed backpacker, but this was my first foray into the world of work mixed with travel. Here is what I found.

Digital nomadism is sold to us as the dream lifestyle of the 21st century. After all, what’s not to love? You get to work on your supposed true calling while visiting amazing countries, experiencing rich cultures and just having a grand old time in general. But behind the facade of instagram photos, cute travel blogs and those million dollar startup ideas that only dawn on you on the road, lies a world that not many talk about: a world of failed businesses, growing alienation sparkled with a gnawing sense of emptiness, not to mention the ecological devastation that comes with mass tourism.

The question arises, if we are to gaze into the soul of digital nomadism, will we be finding something of value, or is it all just a sham?

Travel is work

First things first. We are all familiar with that nomadic photo, the one with the beach and the cocktail and the laptop, oftentime accompanied by a cheeky comment like “just another day at the office” or some mindlessly bland variation on it. Let me be abundantly clear. That photo is a bald-faced lie. We have all done it, guilty as charged, but what the captions usually miss is just how miserable you are on that beach. It’s hot, the wifi sucks, and all your buddies are on their fifth mojitos while you are working on a report that you don’t really give a rats ass about.

Travel has become easier than ever thanks to technology. Long gone are the days of the guide books, filled with information that is outdated long before the ink dries on the paper, the era of incorrect maps on beer soaked brochures and those scruffy notebooks with obscure phone-numbers of second-rate hostel recommendations. Our phones serve as a bottomless wells of information, navigation, translation. They are our guides, companions, our guardian angels, and frankly, it is awesome.

Those who miss the good old days of travel have clearly forgotten how miserable it is to haggle with taxi drivers in a foreign land, knowing full well that even your best negotiated price is still a massive rip-off. God, I love ridesharing apps.

Yes, travel has become easier, but that does not mean it has become effortless. What people forget is that travel requires a lot of organization, especially if you are on the road alone, and even more so when work is involved. Booking tickets, accommodation, transportation, researching into the best SIM card deals, coworking spaces and gyms… What we are talking about is not just simple wanderlust fueled backpacking, it is taking your whole professional and personal act on a world tour, with no roadies and assistants to help you. And all this organization and effort is tiring. Simply put, being a digital nomad is like having a second job – and if you don’t budget time for that job, you’re in for a rough ride.

Life can be quite good on the road.

Minimalism, minimalism, minimalism

The key to the enjoyment of digital nomadism lies, just like with many other areas of life, in our minds. Embarking on a months long journey does wonders to rewiring our brains when it comes to what objects in our lives matter the most. The stuff that we own weight us down, and this time, not just in a metaphorical sense.

If you do not enjoy carrying your whole life in your backpack, and consequently, not a fan of learning to live with your new sidekick of hernia, you will soon learn to embrace the fact that letting go is kinda’ cool. Let go of all that useless gadget, the clothes and all that extra medicine that you brought along for your family members’ peace of mind.

The wonderful thing about minimalism as a mindset is that it is quite contagious.

Clearing all the material clutter, surprise-surprise, provides unprecedented clarity of mind as well. You will feel a newfound appreciation for your work, your journey, your friends and family, and most importantly, yourself. Now ain’t that a nice cliché for us all?

The ethics of digital nomadism

Travel is a selfish act. We do not get halfway across the globe to enrich a culture, it’s the other way around. That culture is just fine without us, it has been for centuries. We are the ones who seek adventure, self-fulfillment, and new opportunities. It is all for us, or rather me, the ego. And yes, you will be visiting exciting places, meeting all those people who will change your life, and yes, you will come home a better person.

There’s this classic quote floating around the internet on how travel is the only thing money can buy that will actually make you richer. Having traveled 30+ countries, I stand by that. But what about the price that future generations will be paying?

On one hand, it is an immense testament to our times that on a whimsical decision I can find myself on the other part of the world within hours. Preferably wearing shorts, since I really can’t stand the cold. On the other, it is such a selfish thing to do to the planet. After all, am I really burning all that dinosaur juice just so I can feel a little better about myself, is that it?

Can we really preach sustainability, changing the world and being mindful about the future, when we feel so entitled to new experiences, cultures or just a warm beach?

There is no right or wrong here. Travel for the sake of travel is fine. I suppose feeling guilty just for the sake of it, is not fine, so locking ourselves into a room just to ecomasturbate to the soothing voice of Richard Attenborough on Planet Earth is not a solution either. But ask yourself, at the end of the day, is your travel of substance, or is it for your ego? Are you on a mission with your nomadism, or are you just there to get that one instagram photo that thousand others have already taken? Be brutally honest, make your selfishness count.

The face of a man stuck in a Hiroshima hotel room for 48 hours, trying to orchestrate a product launch across 3 continents.

Home is where the grocery guy is

We live in an era when work is god and god is work. We are all devout followers of self management, self improvement, all in the chase of a better life. But as any good zealots, we oftentimes forget the boundaries. We overdo it, we chase our dreams, or at least dreams that we believe to be ours, only to find ourselves burnt out after months of work that is, when we really look deep down, meaningless. Yet another failure, yet another self sacrifice, and for what, bragging rights back home that I lived in Bali?

Home is where the workstation is for the digital nomad, or at least that’s what the pamphlets are selling. But that is again a lie.

So where is home then? The more you travel, the more familiar faces all across the world will feel. And yet, more distant you will become with most of them, as they are not the faces you know. Same-same, but different. And what’s funny is that the more opportunities you have to connect, the less meaningful these connections become.

I am not that good with casual small talk, yet I immediately sense when people recognize me. That is when I start to feel secure in a new environment, may it be a new apartment back home, a random hostel in Saigon, or just the grocery guy down the street. But building these familiarities takes time, effort and commitment, all of which are scarce resources for most digital nomads.

There was this Welsh guy in Thailand who told me that this gypsy lifestyle usually ends in one of two ways. Either you compromise some and give up the 24/7 travel, maybe get rooted somewhere, or after a couple of years on the road, you will go crazy. There is no in between. As a digital nomad the world is your oyster, but the real connections are the ones that last. Home is where the grocery guy welcomes you with a smile, and knows you are the dude who will definitely want to skip talking about the weather.

Sometimes you work from amazing locations. Sometimes you just make do.

Would I do it again?

Yes. In a heartbeat, no questions asked. Travel for me is a way to recharge, to broaden my perspective, to absorb new ideas and new people. Most of the best memories I have are the ones I got to experience on the road. I am who I am, and I have travel to thank for that.

Becoming a digital nomad is one of the greatest education you can have, as it teaches perspective. And perspective has no price tag.

We are humans, and we like to create. In creation we find joy and meaning to our existence, and that is usually an awesome thing. Digital nomads are one of the most fascinating people on this mud ball right now, the freedoms they represent are marvelous, the ideas they throw around are crazy, and what’s even more crazy is that they actually go out and they make these ideas come true.

There is nothing wrong with seeking more financial freedom, in enterprising for new opportunities, for setting out to make the world a better place. In fact, it is something to be celebrated. So, go travel, go create. Become a freelancer, become a digital nomad. But never forget where home is, where your humanity is rooted, and most importantly, when it comes to packing that backpack, leave your ego out, and make your trip count.

This article was originally posted in Kaizenera’s blog section.